Sometimes there are things we’re afraid to bring up, not wanting to rock the boat or push issues that will lead to uncomfortable conversations. But the thing is, relationships can’t thrive or progress without a steady flow of communication. You have to be on the same page, otherwise you run into problems down the line.
But to get to that same page, whether that means marriage or an otherwise committed relationship that stands the test of time, you have to tackle some tough questions first. And if the questions seem especially scary, that likely means you especially need to ask — and answer — them.
1. So what happens if i get pregnant?
If you’re sexually active, it must be addressed, because it’s always a possibility (yes, even when using birth control) — and it’s definitely not easier to talk about when you’re dealing with a late period. You can never quite predict how you’ll feel until it actually happens, but by discussing it beforehand, at least you’ll know where each of you stands.
If you’re sexually active, it must be addressed, because it’s always a possibility (yes, even when using birth control) — and it’s definitely not easier to talk about when you’re dealing with a late period. You can never quite predict how you’ll feel until it actually happens, but by discussing it beforehand, at least you’ll know where each of you stands.
2. Have I ever really hurt you with something I’ve said or done?
Spoiler alert: the answer is probably yes. It doesn’t make either of you bad people. It makes you human. We all make mistakes; the trick is learning to let go of the guilt and resentment that surrounds them. It won’t be easy to hear the hurts you’ve caused, but the next time you start to say or do something similar, you might think twice.
Spoiler alert: the answer is probably yes. It doesn’t make either of you bad people. It makes you human. We all make mistakes; the trick is learning to let go of the guilt and resentment that surrounds them. It won’t be easy to hear the hurts you’ve caused, but the next time you start to say or do something similar, you might think twice.
And if you’re on the receiving end of this question, try to answer with kindness and respect. You’re working together toward a happier future, and playing the blame-game only hinders that. Sorry is a commitment to change, and forgiveness is the acceptance of that commitment. You need both to move on fully.
3. Do you actually want to get married someday?
If you and your partner have different opinions on marriage, it’s not something you want to find out five years down the line. Just because you bring it up doesn’t mean you expect to set a wedding date next week, and both of you should understand that. And it’s very possible your answer might change in a year or two. But once you put your cards on the table, so to speak, the subject seems a whole lot less looming.
If you and your partner have different opinions on marriage, it’s not something you want to find out five years down the line. Just because you bring it up doesn’t mean you expect to set a wedding date next week, and both of you should understand that. And it’s very possible your answer might change in a year or two. But once you put your cards on the table, so to speak, the subject seems a whole lot less looming.
Maybe you both agree that you’re not ready for that step. Maybe one of you wants to get married, but the other person doesn’t feel ready. That might be fine for where you’re at right now, or it might not be. You might even be surprised by your own thoughts on the matter once you start talking. But there’s only one way to know for sure.
Source:Worldlifestyle.com
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