Well I’m almost a year into parenting and i've had enough time to reflect this entire period, from the things people say to me to the things i say to myself. Mostly cause
nowadays I can’t help it.Mistakes people used to take from me and just smile are no more tolerated, sometimes i get a word lash "You be person father now o" and instantly a photo of my boy passes right before my eyes and boom!!! i have to get back on track and protect this little boys self pride. Being a parent is quite interesting, its like am learning on the Job, i've changed so much from who i used to be,
I Am (Extensively) More Patient Than I Used To Be: Yeah, seriously. It’s not quite clear whether it was by choice, by nature or by force. Either way it’s happened. Yes, but it doesn’t bother me really. Before now, i used to picture having baby poop touch my hand but now does it really bother me? Nope. Only on the level that a parent should, that we have to keep our hands as clean as possible so the little one doesn’t get sick.
I have gained a much bigger tolerance for all things, especially with the little one. Simply having the understanding that he is learning how to be a human will give you a perspective of what he is thinking.
Lets talk about my language, i’m More Sensitive About My Language now. I used to curse like a sailor. Actually….I still do, sometimes bad words still make its way out of my mouth while the little one is present. Luckily it’s not a habit, but it takes less than a second to realize what’s happened.
Lets talk about my Sons mother, I’ve always been in love with her personality and how she functions from day-to-day, even the little things, and being in love with her in that way helped form the type of person I am becoming. But now I get to see her be a Mom, translating her previous personality into being the amazing parent she is. Its amazing, and has elevated my own transformation into a Dad.
These days, i don’t ever expect things to go as planned, Sure it’s nice to make plans, and generally they work out. By that I mean…we plan to go to the zoo, and yeah we’ll get there and be present at the zoo then leave. But that doesn’t always mean it’ll be a good time. You will find yourself at your most forgetful as a parent, not because you have become more forgetful, but because there is just so much more for you to remember as compared to the pre-parent life. Overall it’ll work out, but never 100% the way you think it will, so always be open to interpretation wherever you go.
Now I clearly Understand My Parents’ Fears, I used to wonder why my parents
were so cautious of certain things. But now…sometimes I think about how
they weren’t cautious enough! Obviously they did a great job, we all
survived and came out the other end as great people. But damn if there
isn’t a million was to get hurt even just within your own home. I Analyze My Surroundings Constantly, checking for sharp objects and any harmful objects. There is not a single second that I’m
with the little one and NOT constantly analyzing our immediate
surroundings for possible danger. I’ve developed this ridiculous style awareness, and while that may be awesome, I don’t nearly
have the hand-to-hand combat skills and reaction times that he does.
Maybe one day. I Now Know What True Love Feels Like: Unfortunately I can’t
really explain this with words. Parents, you know what I mean. Soon to
be parents, you’ll know soon even if it doesn’t happen immediately.
I Am (Extensively) More Patient Than I Used To Be: Yeah, seriously. It’s not quite clear whether it was by choice, by nature or by force. Either way it’s happened. Yes, but it doesn’t bother me really. Before now, i used to picture having baby poop touch my hand but now does it really bother me? Nope. Only on the level that a parent should, that we have to keep our hands as clean as possible so the little one doesn’t get sick.
I have gained a much bigger tolerance for all things, especially with the little one. Simply having the understanding that he is learning how to be a human will give you a perspective of what he is thinking.
Lets talk about my language, i’m More Sensitive About My Language now. I used to curse like a sailor. Actually….I still do, sometimes bad words still make its way out of my mouth while the little one is present. Luckily it’s not a habit, but it takes less than a second to realize what’s happened.
Lets talk about my Sons mother, I’ve always been in love with her personality and how she functions from day-to-day, even the little things, and being in love with her in that way helped form the type of person I am becoming. But now I get to see her be a Mom, translating her previous personality into being the amazing parent she is. Its amazing, and has elevated my own transformation into a Dad.
These days, i don’t ever expect things to go as planned, Sure it’s nice to make plans, and generally they work out. By that I mean…we plan to go to the zoo, and yeah we’ll get there and be present at the zoo then leave. But that doesn’t always mean it’ll be a good time. You will find yourself at your most forgetful as a parent, not because you have become more forgetful, but because there is just so much more for you to remember as compared to the pre-parent life. Overall it’ll work out, but never 100% the way you think it will, so always be open to interpretation wherever you go.
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